Brotherly Love?

Today is full of ups and downs.
Up: heard from a church (in San Diego...go figure) that is interested in Jay and I /our music and stuff....
Down: My brother is upset because I told him that he prob. won't be able to come live with us in the States. This is a large 'down' for a couple reasons...a) I think he's manipulating my mom into thinking I'm some big mean sister oger, b) he's manipulating me into thinking that too. c) what if I am a big sister oger.... it's like this -- I love my brother, sooo much, he's my little bro, but at the same time, we have a different relationship, because there's so much age difference, we're not really close, like a typical brother/sister would be, so I end up feeling more like a parent in most intances than a sister. and I admit, I struggle between the two. Anyways, my mom called me today, all super concerned because D. is all bummed that I told him he won't be able to come live with us, "even though he'll have all this money saved etc. etc." and I'm just trying to be realistic... and tell him, you know, we may not even be able to stay there, and I can't work yet...we'll be waiting who knows how long for my stuff, let alone his stuff. Plus, I think it may be a bad move on his part, I really feel like he needs to grow up some. He needs to find God, stop listening to his ridiculous rap crap and start to figure himself out, before he goes anywhere else. (In a perfect world). It would be different if I had lived there for years and we were established and stuff, I don't know, deep down, I just feel bad because I'm scared I hurt him, bottom line, regardless of whether hes manipulative or not, I guess I'm just a sucker... and I really hate thinking of all this while trying to plan to leave my life behind, it's hard enough.
Advice is appreciated....